I was going to write a Thank you blog post and summarize what happened in my life this past year, but then I received a note from Mark and decided to change the format of my post to offer three tips that helped me in 2010.
1. Create several social identities. Become a member of several groups, whether it is a book club, church meeting, basketball team at work, make you beer crew, etc. This year I spent many months living off my savings and trying to be very frugal while I was looking for a job. I couldn’t go out much or go on vacation, etc. but I attended my Tuesday Writer’s Meet-up gatherings, met with my book club friends and volunteered with OLPC. My social groups got me going and gave me sense of purpose and fulfillment especially during hard times.
Make friends with people from different walks of life, one day you’ll especially thank yourself for that, as those friendships will give you new perspective, make you wiser and more open-minded. This will also help you network and share hobbies with others.
2. Don’t be afraid to look or ask for help. At some points of our lives we all need either direct help or mentoring. Sometimes we are debating between several options and can’t make up our mind. And then one small piece of advice from a total stranger could work as a moderator or catalyst for resolving our pending questions. When depressed, don’t assume you are alone and your condition will stay like that forever, everything passes especially bad things. “All inevitable things are temporary, only lessons from inevitable are eternal” Paolo Coelho. For any problem you have, there is someone who has the answer for you as there have been at least 12 billion people on Earth past and present (plus aliens) and someone for sure at least has thought about what you are pondering.
Ask for help, Google it, put it out there! And the answer will come to you, just believe in the abundance of the Universe, because for some magic reason there are people out there who have right answers. And if you are the one who has the solution, post it somewhere on your blog, some forum, etc… Your opinion is valuable for someone else on this planet.
3. Make new priorities this year. Find room for what you really want to do. Whether it is a long-desired hobby, more time spent with your friends and family or a simple vacation. My friend complained that he worked too much and had no time to rest, then I said “make it your priority, and then you will find time”. When he focused on it, he managed to take time off work; months later I received beautiful pictures he sent from his big trip to Europe. He looked very happy and healthy. The same happened to me. A year ago I realized that I had other priorities in life besides corporate work, and I left my job and went to volunteer in Asia. I felt like I found something I lost many years ago – the meaning and lightness of life.
Make priorities this year for important things in you life that should not wait, make them your New Year’s resolution.
Inspired by Mark McCurdy and his Three awesome tips to start the New Year http://thenonprofitcareercoach.org/three-awesome-tips-to-start-the-new-year